Being asked to part of the wedding party in an honor. A grand one. When asked to be the best man or maid of honor, it is an even higher call to action. The Maid of Honor is the person to ensure the bride feels special before, during, and shortly after the wedding day. The Best Man is the person who keeps the groom calm during the stressful planning, organizes the bachelor party, and ensures the groom feels like a King before, during, and shortly after the wedding. (Though they have dramatically fewer resources than bridesmaids and maid of honors)
I’ve put together a list that will help out both bridesmaids and groomsmen to go above and beyond the call of being in the wedding party.
Help plan the bachelor/bachelorette party. Take responsibility of this event as soon as you’ve been crowned MOH or best man. Get the entire wedding party involved, following through with simple itineraries for the weekend and book fun activities for the group attending. Take into account the interests of the bride/groom when you plan their party too – don’t take them to Vegas if they prefer the quiet of the outdoors.
Offer your help to the bride and groom. It’s a simple gesture, but it can go so far! Let me tell you I would have loved more assistance from our wedding party. The bride and groom will appreciate having your support and willingness to be involved in helping them plan. It takes the awkwardness out of asking for help, trust me.
Dance at the reception. Help get the party started and keep it going until the big send off! Most people are nervous about being the first person to hit the dance floor and being watched. When the DJ or band starts playing, grab your drink of choice, the hands of the rest of the wedding party and get grooving! Then go back and grab other guests dancing on the sidelines. The bride and groom will thank you when they have pictures of guests enjoying themselves rather than being wall flowers.
Be prepared to give a speech/toast. This should probably be at the TOP of the list. When my husband and I got married, the “best man” refused to give a speech at the reception. It crushed my husband that his lifelong friend wouldn’t speak…making me nearly transform into a bridezilla, rescinding his invitation. In the end, I didn’t but it came pretty dang close. If you are a maid of honor or best man PLEASE EXPECT TO GIVE A SPEECH. Whether you are nervous to talk in front of other people or bad at writing, or whatever the case may be at the very least come up with a short five minute toast to honor your best friend. A Practical Wedding has wonderful tips and tricks for Maid of Honors and The Roosevelt’s has put together a helpful infographic for the Best Man.