Have you ever wondered who you want to give the special toast at your reception? Asking a friend or family to give a speech at your wedding can be one of the greatest honors you can bestow upon a person for your special day. That is what I thought when my husband and I got married, however, his “best friend” for whatever reason refused to give one. This left my husband crushed. After that, we decided the next best thing was to ask his brother-in-law to give a toast. Luckily, he happily said yes.
With that decision made we had to move onto the next item on the list, what should or should not be shared, what to do in case he gets nervous, etc. Before it’s “showtime”, and your chosen person finds themselves standing up in your reception hall, with a body of nerves, there are some things you might want to remind them of before they put their speech together and deliver it to a room full of your favorite people.
Here are 7 things to remind your loved ones giving a toast at your wedding.
Bring an extra copy of their toast and give it to your wedding coordinator to hold in case they misplace their copy. Or if they are more tech savvy, have them save it on their phone.
Ask them kindly to not rush to the open bar. It may seem like a good idea to kick the nerves by taking multiple trips to the bar for liquid courage before they give their speech. It may leave them stumbling over words more than you’d like.
Best advice is to keep it short and sweet. The best speeches are the ones that are short, sweet, and don’t include extra minutes of rambling words or verbal fillers. Keeping it short will also minimize the risk of nerves getting the best of your loved ones that prefer to not be in front of a crowd.
Unless the inside joke makes sense to everyone in the room, please leave it out of the speech. You want to make sure they grab the audience’s attention and not make them feel like they weren’t invited to the wedding party.
Jokes lead me to my next suggestion, make sure they know to leave out anything too embarrassing. If there’s a story or a memory that’ll get your or the groom’s cheeks flushed red, leave it out. Hopefully they don’t want to leave you in tears, bad tears, after their speech is over.
Practice can build confidence. The more they read the speech to themselves, the more they’ll feel confident on the day of the wedding to deliver it to a room of people they’ve probably never seen before.
Finally, remember the their audience. Keep the speech as PG as possible. Remember, the audience is filled with all different people from your and the groom’s life.