For anyone who has been a bridesmaid, whether just once or its become a habitual thing, knows that it is no secret that being a bridesmaid can get expensive quickly. Before you know it, you could find yourself reaching deep into your pockets, or your savings account, to spend close to $1,000 on a wedding for your good friend or family member, just to claim the spot as a member of their bridal party. Can we say “out of control”?!
Are you thinking, “where does the money go?!” There’s the dress, the pre-wedding parties (bachelorette, bridal, engagement), the gifts, and of course, all of the travel and accommodations, so that you can make sure you make it to all things wedding, all of the time.
As a bride, if you find that you have bridesmaids who are on a strict budget, but still want to accept the honor of standing beside you on your special day, it’s important that you acknowledge their spending limit and make sure that you take that into consideration when you’re starting to plan the details of your wedding adventure.
Here are 6 suggestions to be mindful any bridesmaid on a budget:
*Don’t be afraid to ask for their budget, pay attention to it
Ask your bridesmaids to give you a ballpark range on how much they are able, and would like to, spend on things like the bridesmaid dress, the bachelorette party, or the bridal shower if you are asking them to chip in and pay for that. Do this early on so that you’re aware of the dollar amount before you or your maid-of-honor starts the planning and ultimately the spending.
*Set a Budget for the Bridal Party (and stick to it!)
Have a heart to heart with your maid-of-honor and have her set a max-spending budget for the entire bridal party to follow. That way, your one or two bridesmaids who are on a tight budget don’t have to feel alone,and left out.
*Consider a “Plan B”
When you’re trying to work with their budget, you may find that the original dress you want them to buy is more than they can afford or the hotel you want everyone to stay at for the bachelorette party is way more than your gal pals budget allows, try to find a more affordable plan B.
*Give Them an Out
In the end, it is your wedding. If you’re not looking to compromise on the activities you dreamed up or the bridesmaid dress you’d like all your girls to wear, then the best way for you to deal with a bridesmaid on a budget is to let them know that they don’t have to take on the role. Give them the option to participate in your wedding activities in other ways.
*Seek Out Low Cost Activities
If you’re looking to plan a bachelorette party that everyone can attend, consider doing something local and researching free or low-cost activities in the area. This is easily done if you live near, or just outside of, a larger city. Several bars and restaurants will have events happening on the weekend. Mention you are celebrating a bachelorette party ahead of time and occasionally your group with get a few extra goodies. If you do want to plan the bachelorette party in a location that requires your bridal party to travel, try to at least plan activities that don’t require them to buy tickets or constantly need to reach for their wallet throughout the weekend.
*Pay for Things When You Can
Whether it’s gifting your bridal party their hair and makeup for the wedding day or buying their bridesmaid dresses for them, try to pay for what you can so that you don’t have to put a huge financial strain on your bridesmaids.